YES, I SAID IT.
WARNING: This post is a little bit long, sooo Brace yourself.
I guess I should start with explaining why I used Obama, for this post. First off, that expression! We usually have that expression when peace talks in our own minds are failing, we are doing everything to try and stay calm after someone has pressed all the ‘right’ buttons (Nuclear launch codes), so now there is a huge mushroom cloud in our head which you can almost see through our eyes and nuclear waste is blowing out of ears and nostrils.
Second, it’s Obama…He is the President of the U.S of A, he has to stay composed and calm at ALL times because most of the world is watching him. In this situation, let’s think of ourselves as diplomats and Servants of Allah, knowing that Allah is always watching, and the angels too, and everything is recorded in excruciating detail. Yes, Privacy is a myth.
New perspective on things usually brightens up the day.
Ever thought about the fact that being wronged by others is actually a blessing? Like a HUGEEE Blessing. Just hear me out, first, it’s really good practice for patience and tolerance. In case you have never thought about it, 80% of the time we are wronged by someone that someone is usually close to us, very few times are we wronged by complete strangers, and even when that happens, we usually get over it in a couple of minutes, hours, days… ok sometimes months and years, but that’s rare, it’s for the “special” kind of strangers. But other than that the others are pretty mellow.
SO how is this a blessing, being wronged that is…well let’s see if I can make my case,
ONE: Allah loves those who restrain their anger and forgive others
Surah Al- Imran 3:134
“Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good;”
Narrated Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri and Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that.”
This would mean every time we get hurt or upset and keep calm, our sins are forgiven.
“There is no calamity that befalls one of the Muslims and he responds by saying ‘Innaa Lillaahi wa innaa ilahi raaji’oon, Allaahumma ujurni fi museebati w’ukhluf li khayran minha (Truly, to Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return; O Allaah, reward me in this calamity and compensate me with something better than it),’ but Allaah will compensate him with something better than it.”
– Pretty much self explanatory
“And let not those of virtue among you and wealth swear not to give [aid] to their relatives and the needy and the emigrants for the cause of Allah , and let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.”
Forgive and we shall be forgiven..
The prayer of the one who has been wronged. In the hadeeth it says: “Fear the prayer of the one who has been wronged, for there is no barrier between it and Allaah.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 469; Muslim, 19. And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The prayer of the one who has been wronged will be answered, even if he is an evildoer, for his evildoing is only against himself.” Narrated by Ahmad. See Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3382.
– Well this has two sides, first when we are wronged we should make dua, immediately, not like dua to for the person to be hit by lightning. But something more productive, like for our sins to be forgiven, fresh start, or whatever else we want. The other side is we should apologize as soon as possible when we find out we wronged someone, because they might ask for lightning. J
The Messenger of Allah Sallallahu ALaihi wasallam said:“The best deed before Allah is to pardon a person who has wronged you, to show affection for relatives who have broken ties with you, and to act generously towards a person who has deprived you”. Thereafter he recited the following holy verses: “Turn to forgiveness and enjoin good and turn aside from ignorant” (7:199).
Last but not least, my favourite…The great reward given to the one who is forgiving and pardons others…
The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu ALaihi Wasallam) was seated in a gathering with the Sahabah when he looked towards the entrance and said, “A man of Paradise is coming.” At that instance someone who seemed to be very ordinary entered the mosque where they were seated. A Sahabi was curious as to why the Prophet .‘ said this, so he followed the man to his house. This Sahabi told the man that he was a traveler and stayed as a guest. For three days the Sahabi saw nothing unusual, so he finally told the man what the Prophet had said and asked him what was so special. The man thought for a long time and said, “There might be one thing — before going to sleep every night I forgive everyone and sleep with a clean heart.”
The Ultimate prize, Jannah is awarded to someone for just forgiving and pardoning others.
So as you can see. Getting wronged is a blessing in disguise, albeit at times it can come in the middle of the night full stealth mode, guerilla warfare camouflage gear with night vision…but it’s still a blessing none the less…especially when handled well. Because we wouldn’t be in the position to get those blessings if no one wronged us.
It’s usually easy to forgive strangers most times, because we might never see them again, or we just don’t care, but for those close to us, it’s a little bit harder because we expect them to know, we expect them to be more kind and caring.
But if you think about it we would find it surprising that they only give us the opportunity to forgive them once a month, while we constantly wrong ourselves and Allah forgives us, daily.
Satan keeps offering us opportunities to sin and we keep accepting them like awards…
“ For me?? Really? Ohhh you are far too kind…Eehhheeemm …clearing throat, I would like to thank the evil genius in me, a special shout out to my nafs… you have always been there for me, through the thick and thin….”
May Allah give us all the ability to forgive others for the wrong they do to us, and May Allah give them the ability to forgive us for the wrong we do to them and May Allah forgive us all for our sins – Ameen
Love you all for the sake of Allah