We are all struggling in life, each and every one of us. Sometimes we forget this and think maybe others aren’t struggling, I believe this is trick of shaytan to not only make us jealous and ungrateful but worst of all to break the bonds of brotherhood in Islam.
People are dying around us, spiritually, drowning emotionally. Whether we acknowledge it or not, a part of us is dying with each one of them. The first step to saving ourselves is saving our brothers and sisters around us.
Do not belittle another one’s struggle just because Allah made that struggle seem easy for you, instead encourage them and help them. So that Allah may help you in your struggles.
Isn’t that what brotherhood is truly about? Brotherhood is not just about hanging out together and laughing and smiling, acting like everything is all good. True brotherhood is realizing that we are all going through our own struggles and we need Allah, and we need each other. It’s about giving the helping hand even when your brother is too shy to ask.
Don’t go out there and try to solve the problems in their lives, that’s not what they want, or need. What they need is to feel that you are their companion and you are there for them. Just as you would want someone to be there for you when you are struggling, you don’t want them to come to you trying to dish out all the answers to your problems as if it’s a mathematical problem you forgot the formula to.
We need to see this, we need to accept our weaknesses, acknowledge them, that’s why we struggle. Because we are created weak.
“And Allah wants to lighten for you [your difficulties]; and mankind was created weak.”
Surah An-Nisa 4:28
The least you can do for your brother or sister is to make dua for them. And tell them that you will, so they know there is someone who cares for them. Remind them about Allah in the kindest ways, and don’t shove it down their throats.
Don’t try to silver line their problems, by saying “at least you still have this”, or “someone else is going through worse”
Honestly how does that help them with their problem?? Or are you trying to guilt trip them out of feeling bad? It would be better to not say nothing at all then.
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “He who relieves the hardship of a believer in this world, Allah will relieve his hardship on the Day of Judgment. He who makes easy what is difficult, Allah will make it easy for him in the world and the Hereafter. He who conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults in the world and the Hereafter, for Allah helps the servant so long as he helps his brother. He who travels a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy a path to Paradise, for a people do not gather together in the houses of Allah, reciting the Book of Allah and studying together, except that tranquility will descend upon them, mercy will cover them, angels will surround them, and Allah will mention them to those with Him; and he who is slow to good deeds will not be hastened by his lineage.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2699
In short help others even in the smallest of things and Allah will help you, in this world and in the hereafter.
May Allah make your struggles easy for you….(SAY AMIN) 🙂