Brothers and Sisters, I can already sense the excitement , the atmosphere is changing, you waiting to hear what I got to say about relationships. Because it’s the sweetest thing invented since candy…or so people think. Well honestly…I don’t have much to write about relationships because I found these two videos on YouTube that say pretty much what there needs to be said about relationships in Islam; the legal one…marriage.
-What men need to know about women: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VR395_rb8pc
-What women need to know about men: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf6B4xk3kcI
Now as for the other relationships, the boyfriend and girlfriend thing, well, it doesn’t work. That’s why it’s not allowed. It’s not because it’s not allowed then it doesn’t work. (Take a moment and think about that.)
Why doesn’t it work? Because the guy can’t fully perform his duties and responsibility to the girl and the girl can’t either, hence both will also not be able to attain their rights from each other. It’s the first cause of a lot of stress, because no one knows what’s what, and you are just winging it in no-man’s land. It leads to hurting each other and this happens regardless of whether you are Muslim or not. Now being a Muslim and knowing that its wrong adds more stress because you have a guilty conscience. Well then that might lead to you guys breaking up and now guess what? You fooled around with someone’s future wife and she fooled around with someone’s future husband and we know what goes around comes around especially in this case. From the Holy Quran;
“Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable.” – Surah 24. An-Nur : 26
Now you would say, what if you have “good intentions” as in you are planning to be married? Well then tell each other’s parents, if that’s true, and even if you aren’t financially ready then maybe the parents can help or at least it would be taken more seriously and be moved on a bit faster. I know not all parents are supportive and some have major issues, so then pray to Allah always and Allah will open a way, since wanting to get married pleases Allah and In shaa Allah He will make it easy for you. Remember, true love brings you closer to Allah not away from him.
And now last but not least… the girlfriends and the boyfriends who claim to be just friends…plutonic…because pigs fly and Lions eat grass to be fit. There is no such thing… and once again YouTube to the rescue! Please watch this 3 min video before even the other two:
Last word of caution; ladies don’t underestimate male libido and don’t blame us for it either, we were created this way. It’s the same way you were created emotional and have mood swings nine ways to Sunday (I know for some ladies that’s an exaggeration but I bet you know a friend who it applies to). But Islam being awesome as it is already has a prescribed lifestyle that blends both features of men and women harmoniously so they can live happily ever after. The real happily ever after; follow the Sunnah and the Quran and you’ll understand. And what happens when you transgress the limits… well Shit Happens. Look around you at all the drama and hurt. Sad…I know, but we were warned.
Thank you for your time.